The Blue state of mind

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The Blue State of Mind

Now I’ll try to put into words something I’ve wanted to write about for a long time.

So many of us are touching this subject of living in a stage of mind visualized by different shades of blue that very easily turns black.

So many of us are touched by the pain and sorrow and suffering from the hurt inside that with a wide expression is called depression.

Not only the person with the overwhelming heaviness inside is affected but also the people surrounding that person. Not knowing how to help and sometimes not even knowing their loved one is hurting because this is a stage we tend to hide from others, if possible. Or if it is not possible, we try to hide ourselves.

I found help in writing this piece from a dear friend who lost a brother from this black disease, her grief is deep and she misses him every day. Together we are urged to help others to prevent the darkness to be overwhelming. She has captured her thoughts in a beautiful art and poem to read, just click at:

Kath Unsworth 

It’s with my strongest conviction I want us to unfold the silence and embarrassment concerning this burden. That we let go of old prejudices and try to help anyone affected by the consequences and work towards healing the inside.

Sometimes belonging to a religion may help you find ways to be uplifted, sometimes it doesn’t. Either way there is no easy way out of the stage that has turned from blue to black.

Now is the time to stop hurting those who are hurt by making them feel ashamed.

Now is the time to start talking openly about these moments of hopelessness that could strike anybody at any time.

This is a stage of body and mind just as physical as diabetes or cancer or any other serious illness and clearly must be taken equally serious. Important research is being made at many hospitals and universities to find answers and relief to affected. Clear evidence exists of physical activities in the body affecting us with these stages. And from that research remedies are being made.

It is clearly also helping to find counselling to help get into balance. There is absolutely no shame in doing that.

As an observer of someone suffering from depression we are not expected to solve heir problem, what we could do is participate, mostly just listen.

As being the one suffering we might need to learn to accept it as our companion. We learn to search a light in the darkness. Even the tiniest light is medicine for our soul. It could be anything; a word, a song, a painting, a photograph. Holding on to that flicker of hope our body is helping us with.

When we are feeling better we are much better off if we learn to accept it. To notice the signs when the mood is lurking in on us and then do the things we know is good for us. Talk to a really good friend, do some exercise we like, get some really good massage, listen to an uplifting meditation, take a detour to a new place to find new experiences, get needed rest, read a book, write a poem, write a journal, go to the forest, take photographs. There are many other ways too. Or if all else fail; allow yourself to do nothing at all and just be. Right there.

Just know it will pass. The blue mood will pass.

And we will be in balance once more.

When we are feeling good is the time to think about what we need to feel good, to build us up, to prepare ourselves, to making the best out of our life.

Do you feel there is a shame in feeling this way, so you try to hide your sadness from others?
Feeling guilt or being ashamed gives us an even heavier burden than the one we are already carrying.

This important subject concerns us all. My thoughts around this comes from my experiences and I also needed to hear the words of wisdom from my dear friend Kath. Finding friends is a very helpful and joyful way of living life. You are not alone. There is someone out there who will be your human companion.

We live in a time when we really need each other.

At the end of this text I send you a fantastic video made by Matthew Johnstone for the WHO who explains this completely, watching it really makes my words unnecessary, but nevertheless I wanted to write them to you because we could help each other open a dialogue. Please watch the video, it’s very important!

There is so much more needed to say about this. There is not enough room in this one post. But if you want to I’ll come back with more.

Please feel free to comment anything you like to share concerning this matter.

I send you my love and peace

Lotta

27 thoughts on “The Blue state of mind

  1. Thank you for these words of encouragement Lotta. For too long I ran and ran away from my feelings., Now though I’ve learnt to look them in the face, telling myself all the while – this too shall pass, this too shall pass.

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  2. Lotta – came over from Kath’s site. You’ve written some wise words here and you are so right. It’s time for us to look upon this as a real illness. I have friends who suffer from depression, and although it’s hard for me to understand it, I know that it is real.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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  3. My goodness, this is powerful and you have such a profound understanding of depression. I have fought with depression my whole life and sometimes it threatens to overwhelm me for good. The advice you give is so good and the video is helpful too. I feel a kinship with people who struggle with depression, because we understand how humbling it is. It’s true, that depression teaches you a great deal about your weakness and your strength, if you are able to learn.

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  4. Well said. I read this early this morning and thought about it all day. Today I did something fun for myself and went sledding and built a snowman.
    I have felt the sting of depression. The black cloud is real.

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    • Anne, I remember this video and the impression Nathan had made on me the first time I heard him! It goes to show you that even at the worst, there is always hope, if we are receptive to the call from within or out there. You must be so proud of your son!

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  5. Wonderful indeed, Lotta that you and Kath worked and posted together on the touchy topic of depression, each one of you dealing with it from your own perspective.

    Your post and the video can be helpful, both to the deeply depressed and those of us who at one point or another are vulnerable to this “dog” or care for someone ailing. You are absolutely right that when we take care of our physical and emotional being, we have a better chance at handlding life’s difficulties that can take us down and keep us there.

    Your love, compassion, and wisdom which have graced me so many times are very important components here, showing me again that you have a gift for helping.

    Thank you! Grateful to have you in my life!

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